What I am about to share with you, is a concept that I learnt from an inspiring speaker, a successful entrepreneur, and a wise family man, David Tjokrorahardjo. He’s a co-founder of DTI Group (people development), a managing principal of Sovereign’s Capital Group (venture capital), and he’s also running his family owned business, Citra Cakra Rahardja (real estate).
One of the concepts that he taught me on achieving a successful life, and not just financially, is through adding value to the life of others around you.
It can be your family, your friends, your colleagues and even your competitors.
Instead of always complaining and criticizing the people around you, start adding value to their lives. It can be as simple as sharing your knowledge about something that they are working on or just by passing the contact of your friend that can actually help them.
The example, that David told me today was his experience when he was running his jewelry business back in the New York city. At that time, David opened his store in one of the street fairs. As his business becoming more successful, many of his “neighbors” at the street fair became jealous. They often swear at him or sometimes kicked his display table. However, instead of confronting them, David chose a better way to handle it.
He started to observe his neighbors business and think about ways on how to help them. But in order to break the tension and awkwardness with his neighbors, he shared some food with them. Not long after that, his neighbors began to open up and share their frustration. They often asked David about his secret on how to attract crowds and get buyers for his product.
So, when asked, David always enjoyed sharing his “secret”. Through his action, David was actually adding values to the people around him. Some of the people that David had helped actually became his competitors. But, he’s never afraid to share his secret because he knew that he would always be the leader in his field through innovation and creativity.
Soon, without realizing it, David had became the unofficial “leader” of the whole street fair. All the sellers in the fair have become friend with David.
And it does not just end there. David continues to add value to the lives of the people around him until today. Since then, he has become more and more successful.
If you may have already noticed, what David has done, does not just make David to have more friends. He also earned the respect, trust and most importantly build a strong relationship with his friends. Now he is friend with many important people in various industries and has a strong influence in his field of work.
Therefore, through such a simple action, you can actually build a strong relationship with people around you, which in the end will bring you a step closer to become more successful in life. However, you need to remember that you got to do it sincerely and genuinely, without expecting any sorts of return from the person that you help.
At the end of the day, life isn’t just about profit and loss.